Consider sharing your time and talent with those that are less fortunate. You’ll be surprised by the benefits you receive by giving to others in this special way. Most of us feel we don’t have any time or talent to spare, but that’s rarely the case. Even a couple of hours each week can make a meaningful difference in someone’s life.
Give to others and get more in return. Consider these benefits:
There are many people that need help for one reason or another. Whatever your position in life, guaranteed there is someone struggling who needs your help or your knowledge in some area of their life. We all have something to share with others. Plus, you can gain a new perspective that makes your own life seem more manageable.
Help others and help yourself in the process. You can’t do something nice for someone else without benefiting in some way. Over 75% of the population doesn’t volunteer in any capacity. Even one hour each week can provide benefits, both to others and you.
Founder, The Natural Life Business Partnership
Many people believe that money is the ultimate success. However, there are many wealthy people that are utterly miserable. Maybe success is about more than just money.
You can define success for yourself. Is success about money? It can be if that’s what you choose. It can also be about something else. You can set several criteria and attempt to achieve them.
What’s important is to create a definition for success that resides within your values, allows you to enjoy life, and avoids feelings of regret when you get older. This is easier to determine than you might think.
Your definition of success is unique and yours to determine.
Consider these ideas:
Your definition of success will likely have multiple criteria. Having a lot of free time might be important to you, but not at the cost of your children going without food.
Examine your own values and beliefs and create your own version of success. Project yourself far into the future and imagine the type of life you want to look back upon. Now, adopt a definition of success that works for you!
Founder, The Natural Life Business Partnership
I’m asked time and time again by just about everyone that’s ever heard of the Law of Attraction: does it really work? As hard as it may be to believe, the Law of Attraction works. It is backed by science. It has always worked and it will always work whether you practice it or not.
Simply put, the Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. It’s based on the fact that your brain naturally searches for what you are focused on. Your brain is naturally programmed to seek out what you subconsciously ask for and brings it to your attention.
Haven’t you ever noticed when one bad thing happens in your life it is often followed by another? This is often called the domino effect.
We have other sayings for it such as: “When it rains it pours.” That’s the Law of Attraction at work.
If the Law of Attraction is so great, why use negative examples to illustrate its effectiveness? For some reason, we as a society find it much easier to believe something negative instead of the things that are positive. When good things happen we just write them off as a one-off lucky break or think that it was just chance.
Is the Law of Attraction About Chance?
There’s no such thing as chance. Everything that happens in this world and in your life happens for a reason. That reason is the Law of Attraction.
Whether you accept it or not, the Law of Attraction works. To believe that it works means that you have to accept responsibility for where your life is and that makes it hard for many to accept the Law of Attraction. Most people right now reading this are going to think: “I do accept responsibility.” Do you really?
Where are your thoughts right now? Are you worrying about money or how to pay the bills? Are you stressed over the fact that more bills keep coming and the money keeps getting spread thinner and thinner?
Spend the next 14 days not thinking about your bills. Don’t look at your bank account. Every time you go to the mailbox, picture money in there. Every time you start to think about bills and debt, transform your mind into thoughts of overflowing abundance.
Some people will argue that it takes more than just “thinking” about things to make them happen or appear, which is true. Thoughts need to be transformed into actions, that’s why some believers say that, so long as you’re thinking about what you want in life, you will take the necessary actions to make those things happen. This is simply another way the Law of Attraction can work.
The Law of Attraction is working right now, all around you. It’s at work in your life. It’s time for you to take control and make the Law of Attraction work in your favor. This means you have to change the way you think. You have to be grateful for what you have and you have to always focus on the positive.
Founder, The Natural Life Business Partnership
Manifesting wealth and abundance begins from within. You have to appreciate what you have in your life already – your family, friends, and job. Instead of focusing on what you wish you had, act as though you already have it. If its love connect with the feeling of love. If its money you desire, connect with the feeling of having all the money you need.
Often people waste precious time thinking about what they don’t have. They start to believe their lives will improve if only they had more money, or more friends, or more gadgets. They think about what’s lacking instead of the abundance that is already overflowing into their life.
If you appreciate what you have, you’ll instantly see the steps necessary to bring more of what you want into your life. It’s like buying a new car then seeing it everywhere you go. That’s because your mind is focused to bring it to your attention, The cars were always there you just didn’t see them because you were focused on not having the car of your dreams. From a practical point of view, this all starts with living in gratitude for what you already have. It will instantly open your mind to all the ways of attracting more of what makes you happy.
Now at first, this may sound difficult, but living in gratitude is rather easy. Start with the little things like “I appreciate my car starting today,” or “I’m grateful for this rainy day it gives me time to watch a movie instead of doing yard work.” Appreciating the good around you doesn’t mean you’re completely satisfied and fulfilled. It simply means that you are grateful for all the good parts of your life, and you’ll soon recognize that you can take those things, even if they are few, and build upon them. That’s how we attract more of the same!
Very often we take our lives for granted and forget to give thanks for all that is good. If you’re having a tough time recognizing the goodness in your life, then make a gratitude list and continue adding to it everyday. For example:
If you can be happy with what you have now, you’ll have a deeper appreciation for the better circumstances that are coming to you in your future. Just imagine how much more you’ll appreciate your eventual move to a large home with a spacious property if you begin to enjoy your current humble place now.
If things seem to be not going well for you. Be thankful for the lesson. For Example:
If you can find the lesson in the situation and not feel that life is happening “to you” instead of for you, you will soon see more positive things flowing toward you.
Keeping Up Appearances
During this holiday season it’s a good time to remember, the term “wealth” doesn’t only relate to money. You can be wealthy by having a loving family who visits often or friends who care for you like one of their own. There’s much more to life than who has the latest designer purse or fanciest sports car. Material possessions alone do not make an abundant life.
If you constantly compare yourself to your neighbor, based solely on material possessions, you may not fully understand what your neighbor’s life is like. He may appear wealthy on the outside, but perhaps he is suffering in his personal life or in great debt. Be very careful making judgments about others because you never truly know what’s going on behind closed doors.
First Steps Toward Wealth is Leading an Authentic Life
When you don’t have a lot of material possessions and monetary wealth, it ironically becomes easier for you to learn how to save money. Saving money is paramount if you want to build monetary wealth, but in order to do so, you have to learn how to delay gratification. That means you must make sure you’re making more money than you’re spending. Ideally you want to pay for everything you have, not finance it – without truly owning your possessions and going into debt, you’re actually moving farther away from wealth.
Besides saving money, the real way to build wealth is to make more money. That may sound rather obvious, but too many people aren’t making the money they can and should. They are stuck in jobs they hate working for someone else. You have to make the conscious decision to get unstuck from your dead-end job and the rat race. Look inside yourself and decide what are you passionate about. If money wasn’t a factor, what would you want to do each day?
You have to rise above the crowd and do something different. Be authentic to who you are. That may mean you have to discover creative ways for you to make money. Are you a healer or an Artist? Is there a hobby you do for fun but would love to make it your full time job? Whatever the case might be for you, you can elevate yourself once you find your passion.
If you’re unhappy with the money you’re making or the life you are leading, you need to start thinking about ways to change it so you can realize your dreams. Don’t get caught up in the excuses of why you can’t make a change (I don’t have the money/education/support) just start moving in that direction. One tiny step at a time with no limiting beliefs. Be grateful each day that you have a new opportunity and take a small action step to reach your goal. Now go get started!
Founder, The Natural Life Business Partnership
Vida, the creeping vine, enjoyed sharing the garden with all the other plants. They all got lots of sun and were gently cared for by their owner, Melanie.
One day, however, Vida noticed that she was growing much faster and far away from the other plants. While they continued to grow upwards from the ground, she started to spread across the back wall.
"Hey, Vida" remarked Ruben Rose, "Where are you heading to? Don’t you want to be our friend anymore?"
"Of course I want to," replied Vida. "But I'm not sure what's happening to me!" She continued in a disappointed tone, "Oh, I wish I was growing like you guys are!"
One day while Vida was busy bemoaning the fact that she was so different, Melanie came into the garden. When she looked up and saw that Vida was covering the back wall with lush greenery, she shrieked with excitement.
"Oh my goodness! How beautiful!" she exclaimed. "I've been waiting so long for the back wall to look like this. I'm so happy I planted a vine!"
When Vida heard this, she was suddenly filled with gratitude for her uniqueness. She had no idea that what was happening to her would bring so much joy to Melanie, and so much beauty to the garden!
"Now I know better than to complain about what I have," she said to herself. "From now on, I'll be sure to find the blessing in everything and be thankful."
Melanie spent many days showing her friends just how beautiful her garden was because of her vine.
Moral: When things seem like they aren't going your way, be patient and grateful for all your blessings anyway.
Vida totally enjoyed her life until she realized it was taking her in an unexpected direction. That new direction confused and frightened her. She resorted to complaining because it wasn’t what she wanted. She was happier with how her life was going before.
In time, however, she realized that if she spent some time thinking about it, she would have identified the blessing. Thankfully, it wasn’t too late for her to turn her frown into true gratitude.
That's likely how life is for you sometimes. You're fine with how things are going, and completely disappointed when they change. It's important, however, to find the blessing in each situation you encounter.
Changes in life usually mean better things are on the way for you. Take the time to identify what those better things are and be thankful for them.
When it's difficult for you to see where a new road leads, have faith that it leads to positivity. Be grateful for the opportunity to experience new things. Appreciate that your situation is one that many others wish for.
Use each moment you have to focus on the good things in front of you. The more time you spend embracing blessings, the more blessings come your way.
1. What are some of the blessings in my life that I take for granted?
2. What steps can I take to turn a disappointing situation into a positive one?
3. In what ways can I express gratitude each day?
I wake up feeling thankful for all I have in life from the smallest pleasures like the sun rise to my greatest love of my family, friends, and future relationships.
I savor every small pleasure in life too. I notice when a neighbor takes a minute to greet me with a smile and chat about the weather. I think about how delicious my first cup of coffee tastes. I take a moment each day to sit in silence and just acknowledge my happiness and joy.
I started to keep a journal this summer too. I write down not only the pleasant things that happen to me each day but my dream episode as if I'm already living it. My perfect life. My perfect partner. My perfect business. My perfect friendships. I make a point to be grateful for each thing that brings me closer to my dream life too.
I show kindness to others. I try to be creative and memorable, so my friends and family know how much I appreciate them. When possible, I pick up the phone to hear their voice or just write a quick text "I'm thinking of you right now."
I think about how much others have helped me, and I try to contribute something back. I may return a favor directly or I may do something nice for a stranger. I'm a strong believer in giving to others, not to get back but I believe I can't become better without first lifting someone else up and it's so simple.
I give thanks for my relationships.
I let my best friends know how much I count on their love and support. I tell my children that I am proud of them for trying regardless of the results. I trust my partner with my private thoughts and encourage them to pursue their dreams. I say I love you, I miss you, I'm thinking of you....and I truly mean it.
I give thanks for my health. Having a strong mind and body makes it possible for me to do the things I love.
I give thanks for my faith. I pray for my spiritual teachers, guides, and friends who help me to clarify my beliefs and make sound decisions. I have peace in knowing that all is unfolding in according to divine planning.
Today, I cultivate a sense of gratitude from the moment that I woke up. I notice the good things in my life and acknowledge the many acts of kindness that I have received. This is a glorious time to be alive, and I am so grateful you read my blog today :)
Founder, The Natural Life Business Partnership
Before I left my 15 year career in Human Resources I started to create a skills list while also considering what kind of job I could do out of my house. Someone I worked with asked if I had considered massage. He thought I had the temperament for it. Recalling my love of giving and receiving back rubs with my sisters, I wrote touch on my skills list. I also scheduled my first appointment with a professional massage therapist and she worked out of her home. Six months later I was in massage school! That was almost eight years ago.
Massage school prepared me for both the business side and technique side of having a solo practice. What it didn’t prepare me for is how I would feel at networking sessions when there were other massage therapists on hand, or even harder for me to deal with, those who represented one of the many new massage chains. At first I thought that I could not compete and felt less than.
Fortunately my classmates and I had formed a marketing club after graduation. We shared leads and the marketing venues which worked for each of us. We also shared our frustrations. I don’t think I’d have the business I have today without having had this group, and maybe I wouldn’t have my sanity either. At one point someone in this group said, “There’s enough skin to go around.” Well, I got to thinking about that and used it as my mantra. It really changed my outlook! Over these last seven years this concept has come to mean many things to me and I think it can be applied to many types of businesses. Here is what I have learned:
1.) Expect and embrace competition. If you have a good product, chances are that some version of it has already been on the market or will be soon. Instead of being negative about the competition, embrace it! Especially in the service industry, I can’t possibly be of service to every person out there, so just realizing that everyone should have an opportunity to be helped is a great attitude changer.
I was NOT good at embracing the competition in the beginning. Looking back, I think it showed. If someone stood up before me at a networking session and said they managed a spa or that they were a licensed massage therapist themselves, my ego was deflated and the real, genuine me didn’t show through. Now, with a new attitude, what I have to offer shines through!
2.) Know your unique selling points. After all, there is only one you, and what YOU offer is special because it is unique to you. For me, I have several unique characteristics that altogether make my practice a one and only type of practice:
A.) I am interested in medical massage and so after graduation I have taken more coursework in this area and have become more specialized.
B.) I do not rush my clients on or off the table. My studio has one client in it at a time and I allot space before and after the massage to prepare for each specific client, giving more than enough time to discuss their current ailments and to debrief afterwards.
C.) No one else has my hands. This last one is the golden nugget because there are absolutely no other hands exactly like mine. But I can apply this to my blogging business and you can apply it to your business because we can replace the word “hands” with whatever we feel is our greatest asset for our business at hand (brain, heart, honesty, writing skills, etc.).
3.) The right people will come. I attract the most wonderful people as clientele! I don’t think that it is by chance. I think it’s because I can define “right people” and therefore will attract these people. Specifically, I want people who are positive and either already believe in the healing power of massage, or if they’ve never had a massage, they are open to the idea and incorporate massage into their health regime. Translation: Know what a good client is for you. For me, I want regulars who benefit from my practice.
4.) I must do the work. This doesn’t just mean the actual hands on work that is involved when a client is in front of me. It’s the unpaid work time, the time when I do not have a client on my table. For example, it is important that I stay abreast of what’s happening in my industry by reading journals and taking classes that I think will be interesting to me and at the same time beneficial to my clients. It’s also important that I build the right marketing venues for me and that I work hard to keep them current. It means updating my website when I get a new certification or providing relevant information in my newsletters.
5.) If I can’t help someone, I refer them to the right person. I learned this best from a local chiropractor who most often helps his clients, but if he can’t, then after a few sessions of not getting results, he refers his patients for massage, physical therapy, orthopedic appointments or other referrals. In this example, it might be that our income stops at this point, or maybe never even starts, but we have still helped this person and this creates good Karma (I can’t get away from the body-mind-spirit connection anymore)!
These are the main points for me, and I am sure there is more good advice out there. If you are new to the business of selling yourself, then you might have more questions than answers. That’s ok because we all have to start somewhere. Either way, please share your own advice, comments or questions, we’d love to hear from you!
About NLBP Charter Member, Marie Higgins
Marie Higgins is a Licensed Massage Therapist and Blogger. She started massage school 8 years ago having had only one experience of massage herself. During the same period she was in school she received spiritual direction and quickly became a believer in the body, mind and spirit connection. In fact, Marie joined NLBP because the members speak the language of those who believe in this connection. Prior to that she worked in Human Resource Management and earned her MBA from St. Louis University (1993).
The blogging Marie does is about her experiences that come as a result of a spiritual journaling practice. She hopes to help others more fully develop their inner spirit wisdom. In 2015 she “broke ground” by setting up a blog site and then, beginning in 2016, shares two posts each week with the goal of getting people to ask God* “what else should I know?”.
More information can be found at CardinalTouch.net about the blog and more information may be found about massage at www.amtamembers.com/mariehiggins.
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